[LM TIPS] How To Talk To A Girl You Like For The First Time

Maybe you have seen a girl around,
and you have been dreaming of just
going up and talking to her.


However,
approaching someone for the first
time is nerve-wracking in most
instances; add your new crush into the mix, and you might be a bumbling
mess.



Sometimes, though, the result is
infinitely worth the risk.



1. Make eye contact . Spend a few days catching her gaze every now and
then. Don’t just stare at her, though;
instead, shoot her small glances until
your eyes meet and she catches you.
When she does, smile slightly and look
away after a second. You’ll probably blush as well, which is all the better –
blushing indicates you’re nervous,
which is a hint that you like her.

2. Time it right. When you do talk to her, pick a time that’s convenient . Don’t try to get her attention when
she’s obviously involved in something
else, and try to have a bit of privacy –
you don’t have to be completely alone,
but her attention shouldn’t be too
distracted. Make the interaction extra casual (and
put a time limit on it) by talking to her
while you’re both walking somewhere
else. If you walk to a class at the same
time as her, or you start walking the
same way home, this is a great opening.

3. Start with a compliment. Paying a girl the right compliment makes your intentions clear right away – she’ll know instantly that you’re
interested in being more than her
friend. Here are some things to
consider:
Know how to deliver a compliment.
Even the best compliment in the world will fall flat if your delivery is off. Keep
a half smile as you talk – it will make
you naturally add appealing inflection
to your voice. (Try this trick out when
you answer the phone sometime and
see if you notice a difference.) Maintain eye contact with her, and keep the
tones of your voice up, but lower the
actual volume – speaking softly
immediately communicates intimacy,
and it can make her instinctively lean
ing closer to hear you. If this all sounds a bit difficult, practice it in front of a
mirror first.
As anyone who’s ever had a stalker
can tell you, there’s a fine but definite
line between flattering and creepy.
With this in mind, choose your compliment wisely. Saying something
like “You always look amazing in that
shirt” can come off as weird if you
don’t know her well, and implies that
you watch her. (Even if you do, it’s
best not to spill that information immediately.) Instead, opt for
something general but cute, such as
“Your smile is glowing today. What’s
making you so happy?” or “I thought
what you said in class earlier was
really interesting.” A good compliment should naturally lead to more
conversation, instead of just hanging
awkwardly in the air after you say it.
Know what to avoid. If you’re going to
pay a girl a compliment about her
physical looks, stick to her eyes, smile or hair. Do not comment on her body
otherwise, especially on the first
interaction.
If you want to play it extra safe, pick
something you already know she’s
proud of. For instance, if you know she’s a dedicated violinist, say
something like, “I’ve heard you’re an
amazing musician,” and use it as a way
to ask her some questions about it.

4. Keep the conversation moving . You might be tempted to stop talking
and just stare at this girl, but don’t let
your nerves get the best of you.
Allowing a long lull in the
conversation will make things feel
awkward.

5. Instead, have a mental list of backup questions you can use if you stumble on an uncomfortable pause. Ask about what she thinks of a shared
homework assignment or an
upcoming event. Asking for her
opinion communicates that you care
about what she thinks, and see her as
more than just an object. Use the conversation to find out more
about her, but be subtle. For instance,
if you want to find out if she already
has a boyfriend, you could casually
ask, “So, anything fun planned with
your boyfriend for the weekend?” If she doesn’t have one and she’s
interested in you, she’ll let you know
immediately.
Ask open-ended questions. For
instance, instead of saying “So, have
anything fun planned for the break?” (which can be answered with
a short “yes” or “no”), say “What are
you going to do to keep busy while
school is out?” A question that
requires a detailed response is always
better to keep a conversation flowing.

6. Make her laugh (optional). If you’re sure you’ve got a joke she’ll
appreciate, give it a shot. The goal is to
show her you have an engaging
sense of humor, but you don’t want to
come off as desperate or cheesy.
If possible, crack a joke about the current situation or something you
both saw happen. Situational humor is
more meaningful than a joke you read
online.
Don’t tell a dirty joke, It’s not
appropriate for a first conversation, and it might give her the wrong
impression.
If she doesn’t get the joke, don’t
explain it to her unless she asks. Just
move on quickly with a new point of
conversation. Good humor is really attractive, but
bad humor is a complete turn off. If
you can’t think of a joke that makes
sense with the situation at hand, leave
it alone.

7. Close the conversation early .
Follow that old saying – “Always leave
them wanting more.” Find a way to
gracefully duck out of the
conversation before it goes stale.


Good luck!
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